Regain Exposed My Private Data to My Ex-Girlfriend and Ignored Most of My Emails
I'm writing this to warn other users about a serious privacy violation and completely unacceptable support experience I had with ReGain.
I used ReGain once in 2021 with my ex-partner. Fast forward to March 17, 2025, I decided to return to the platform with my new partner to begin couples therapy. When I logged into my old account, I was prompted to fill in a new form with a long list of questions about my current relationship. Naturally, I assumed this was treated as a new case, especially since it had been years since I last used the platform.
There was no warning, no confirmation, and no question asking whether I was still with my previous partner. There was no way to indicate that this was a new relationship, and no indication that my account was still linked to my ex-girlfriend.
After paying €240 and sending a deeply personal and emotional message to the new therapist explaining my current relationship, I found out that my ex-girlfriend received an email notification from ReGain saying we had been matched with a therapist—despite us having broken up years ago.
Worse: she reached out to me saying, “Hey, what’s going on? Why did I get a message from ReGain saying we’ve been matched with a therapist?”
That’s how I realized my private messages were shared with someone I had no intention of ever including in this process. She had access to the message I had sent to the therapist, even though it was clearly about my new relationship.
I contacted ReGain support immediately, extremely alarmed, and after several days, I finally received this response:
"Your former partner that is attached to this joint account still has access to their journal, as well as any messages sent to/from the therapist. That said, in order for you to work with your new partner, you will need to create a new Regain account using a different email address. Not only will this provide a fresh start for you and your current partner, but it will also allow them the opportunity to fill out their own questionnaire specific to your current relationship.
If you decide to continue, we can cancel and refund this current membership."
Let’s pause right there. ReGain’s logic is: if you change relationships, you’re expected to guess that you need to create an entirely new account with a different email address—otherwise your ex will remain linked, and may receive notifications and have access to sensitive messages.
I confirmed right away that I wanted a refund. But after that email, I received no further communication. No confirmation that my account was canceled. No confirmation that my ex no longer had access. And no confirmation that the refund had been issued. I had to just wait and wonder.
After several unanswered follow-ups from both me and my current partner’s account, I finally received the refund on March 21st—but again, without a single notification or confirmation email. I was left in the dark, unsure whether anything had even been done.
And as of today, my old account is still linked to my ex, and she still has access to the sensitive information I provided to the therapist.
This is not just bad UX—it’s a serious breach of privacy.
It is completely beyond me how a therapy platform—where people go to open up, be vulnerable, and heal—could be designed with such a careless disregard for something as basic and crucial as user privacy and consent.
If my ex had been toxic or abusive, this could have had devastating consequences. In my case, I was lucky. But this setup is dangerous.
ReGain’s customer support was slow, minimal, and unapologetic. I never felt like they took the matter seriously. They simply refunded me and disappeared.
I will be sharing my experience across platforms, because people need to know:
Your private messages can be accessed by your ex if you reuse your account.
The app offers no safeguards for this, even after years of inactivity.
Their support team will barely acknowledge the issue, let alone fix it.
I strongly recommend staying away from this platform until they completely overhaul their privacy logic and user experience. Therapy apps should be safe, clear, and consent-first. ReGain is currently none of those things.
PS: I gave 2 stars instead of 1 because I had an alright experience with my 2021's couple therapist, even though there are many issues with therapists on the platform.